Couples are saving their marriages by drifting apart on purpose

Don’t let your marriage go down the drain for this silly reason. Polly Blitzer Wolkstein remembers sharing a bathroom sink with her husband in their old New York City apartment as “a dance

of choreographed negotiation,” she told Yahoo. As a beauty writer, the mother of two has a lot of products that pile up and was excited to move to a place with a double vanity when the

family found a new home. “Two people brushing teeth and washing faces in a space barely big enough for one was never ideal. I can’t imagine going back,” she declared. “Having separate spaces

means no bumping elbows, no hovering while someone else finishes up, no silent judgments about toothpaste drips… It’s not just practical, it’s considerate.” EXPLORE MORE And many couples

concur. Double vanities are a “must-have” for nearly 70% of homebuyers, according to the National Association of Homebuilders. Overall, primary baths are becoming larger, said Tricia Zach,

director of research for the National Kitchen and Bath Association. The primary bathroom — once a spot for “quick, utilitarian use” — has become a luxurious place for “relaxation and

self-care,” Zach previously told The Post. Two people can get ready at the same time and can customize the space to their liking. Real estate agent Allison Gold confirmed that most people

prefer a bathroom with two sinks if possible. “It is absolutely expected, at least at a certain price point in single-family homes,” she told Yahoo. “I 100% agree that if there are not two

sinks, it does not feel elevated. It’s kind of a must-have for a primary suite.” Gold herself is among the minority who prefer one sink, opting for more counter space. Her husband won out in

the end, getting two, but she still prefers to go into a second bathroom when they’re both washing up at the same time. No matter how much you love someone, living with another person can

be tough. Family psychologist Barbara Greenberg shared that she’s often mediated arguments with couples fighting over one another’s messiness. “One thing people fight about is not having

their own space. That’s a big point of contention in marriages,” she told Yahoo.   She noted that relationships have a better chance of being “healthy and sustainable” if everyone has their

own space.  That’s why Wolkenstein cherishes her double basin bathroom counter. “In a marriage, so much is collective, but these are the rare ‘you do you’ areas where we can be just a little

selfish, and it works,” she justified. “We share a life, but we also need our own space to get ready [and] decompress.” Some couples have taken it even further, deciding to have separate

bathrooms and bedrooms to save their marriage.