Forgetting a traumatic past

A trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience that may have occurred at any time in a person’s life. A few synonyms commonly associated with trauma are injury, damage, hurt,

wound, abuse or death. A trauma can be either physical, emotional, mental or sexual. The term ‘trauma’ is a subjective word, which means that, what may be traumatic for one person may not be

for another. One of the most serious types includes death or guilt associated with the same and sexual abuse. It is normal to experience traumatic stress following a disturbing event,

whether it is a tragic accident, sexual abuse, violence, a global pandemic, or a natural disaster like an earthquake or flood. You may feel intense shock, confusion, fear, feel numb or

overwhelmed by a host of conflicting emotions, and sometimes all at once. Traumatic stress can shatter your sense of security, leaving you feeling helpless and vulnerable. You may sometimes

feel physically and emotionally drained. These are all normal responses to traumatic events. DEALING WITH TRAUMA Forgetting a trauma depends on its intensity, duration, frequency and the

impact on the person, if a person happens to visit the same place of trauma often, healing would take longer. SPEAK UP Hiding the occurrence of a traumatic event does not make it absent. If

you are not comfortable seeking help from a professional, you must speak about it to someone who is close to you. NO RIGHT OR WRONG WAY TO FEEL People react in different ways to trauma, it

is essential to not tell yourself what you should be thinking, feeling or doing. DO NOT IGNORE FEELINGS It may seem better in the moment to avoid experiencing your emotions, but they exist

whether you are paying attention to them or not. Even intense feelings will pass if you simply allow yourself to feel what you feel. AVOID OBSESSIVELY RELIVING THE TRAUMATIC EVENT

Repetitious thinking or viewing horrific images over and over can overwhelm your nervous system, making it harder to think clearly. Partake in activities that keep your mind occupied, so you

are not dedicating all your energy and attention to the traumatic event. RE-ESTABLISH ROUTINE There is comfort in the familiar. Getting back as much as possible to your normal routine will

help you minimise traumatic stress, anxiety, and hopelessness. Structure your day with regular times for eating, sleeping, spending time with family, and relaxing. PUT MAJOR LIFE DECISIONS

ON HOLD Making big life decisions about home, work, or family while traumatised will only increase the stress in your life. If possible, try to wait until life has settled down, you have

regained your emotional balance, and you are able to think clearly. VENT OUT This phase involves you speaking about how you feel, venting does not mean repeating the traumatic event, unless

you feel the need too. LIMIT SOCIAL MEDIA EXPOSURE Limit social media exposure to traumatic events similar to the one that you have experienced. This will not allow you to heal, but in fact

make you overthink. EXPAND YOUR SOCIAL NETWORK If you live alone or your social network is limited, it is never too late to reach out to others and make new friends. Take advantage of

support groups, gatherings, and organizations. FOCUS ON YOUR SENSES When you feel overwhelmed by distressing feelings or thoughts, grounding yourself in the present moment can help reduce

feelings of anxiety and fear. The 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method is a strategy that involves listings five things you can see, four things you can hear, three things you can touch, two things

you can smell, and one thing you can taste. PRACTICE RELAXATION TECHNIQUES Techniques such as meditation, yoga, or deep breathing to reduce stress, ease anxiety, low moods and improve your

sleep. Usually, feelings of anxiety, numbness, confusion, guilt, and despair following a disaster or traumatic event will start to fade. However, if your traumatic stress reaction is so

intense and persistent that it is getting in the way of your ability to function, you may need help from a mental health professional.