The Secret Crushes That Help Keep Things Spicy in My Marriage

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I had the biggest crush on Don Johnson from the 1980s show Miami Vice and was enamored by his sultry gaze and seductive smile. Little did my husband know that Johnson was the stuff my secret

fantasies were made of, and during sex, I often pretended it was Sonny Crockett who was making love to me under the sheets.

Don’t get me wrong — sex was great with my husband, but my nighttime fantasies added an extra boost to my sex drive and kept us busy in the bedroom for hours. At first, I felt a little

guilty for imagining Johnson in my bed while having sex with my husband (was I cheating?!), but then I realized it went beyond the actor’s good looks. It was the secretiveness behind the

fantasies that elevated my desire.

That feeling of doing something “naughty” took my sexual excitement to a new level, enhancing both masturbation and intercourse — and yet it was harmless to our relationship because I would

never physically cheat on my husband.

There were other celebrities over the years who played a role in my sexual fantasies — Sam Heughan, Tim McGraw and Jeffrey Dean Morgan, just to name a few.

Around this time, my husband and I also discovered role-playing involving creative costumes and unique storylines to spice things up in the boudoir. It felt sexually freeing to play

different characters and act out fantasies that never went beyond the privacy of our bedroom walls.

It wasn’t until I met Amir on the local jogging trail that my fantasy life collided with a real-life attraction. Amir had the celebrity good looks of my favorite screen characters all rolled

into one with the same mysteriousness and sexual appeal that few could resist.