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After a family fallout, one of the hardest aspects to deal with is to accept the idea that the other party feels wronged in some way by your actions - even if they were not intended to cause
hurt. However, acknowledging how the other party feels, whether you agree or not, can show empathy and understanding that can then lead to more effective communication. Prince Harry has
been incredibly open about the many struggles he has faced in his past, many of these issues being active problems, such as the lack of contact and accountability that he feels the Royal
family are responsible for. The struggles Harry details in his autobiography appear to stem from a lot of childhood trauma and repressed emotions from the environment he grew up in, which
many can empathise and relate to. An acknowledgement from the family, whether private or public, of the difficulties that the Duke feels he is facing could have a huge impact that could lead
to a reconciliation. However, the same sentiment applies the other way round; Prince Harry should also acknowledge that the Palace may view events differently – as the late Queen famously
said ‘recollections may vary’ - and their views are also valid. The first step to reconnecting in a family can often be to find something that either party can bond over, no matter how big
or small. This common ground can present itself in many ways, such as an event you may both attend or just a shared interest. Using something that both of you have in common can be used as a
catalyst for building up communication again. The occasion of the coronation is cause for celebration as we celebrate the beginning of the King’s reign, and such a meaningful and happy
occasion may be the perfect backdrop for reconciliation. If the communication is starting up again, it is important to ensure that boundaries are set to avoid another rift occurring. Prince
Harry and the Royal family alike appear to have similar strict boundaries when it comes to the idea of privacy, however both parties’ action this idea in very different ways. When
communication starts again, they should both immediately share the boundaries that they are and aren’t comfortable with. The Royal family, despite being extensive, are a very tight-knit
family. They may be hesitant to let Prince Harry and Meghan back into their circle after this fallout, which is something Prince Harry and Meghan must recognise. If the couple can recognise
this hesitancy, they can more effectively communicate and build the relationship back up at a pace that suits everyone. Valon Asani is a relationship expert at Dua.com.